Unzip the truth, don’t own the shame!Two records of sexual assault in the City Press daily paper on Sunday uncovered sexual assault and its supports. The primary story is the means by which a man took a woman out on the town. They were from Johannesburg South Africa. She was studying in Cape Town while he had nothing going on for him. “Martin” had picked her; he needed to marry her. From the onset, he noticed her lack of interest and knew that for him there would be no second date. Driving her home he decided to rape her. He believed that he was entitled to it, in light of the fact that he had strong feelings for her. To him, it made no difference what she felt – he demonstrated no remorse or compassion for her in his situation – he felt only his own lustful urges.SHE WAS RAPED BECAUSE THE T.V. MADE HIM DO ITIn the next story, a young guy was viewing porn on TV and saw his 13-year-old niece watching through the space between her bedroom door and the wall. He got turned on by this and raped her, in his defense he blamed the TV for his actions as opposed to his own physical actions. There was little justification for his activities other than that he got turned on and his niece was close by, this in itself says a lot.A few men, myself included, rallied around women this week. As noble as that would appear. While as men, I feel we ought to have accomplished much more by now, on this issue, we should have made inquiries, made some move, at least we should have firmly abstained from being a part of the vicious cycle rather than being part of the solution.MALES HAVE A FEELING OF DOMINANCE OVER WOMENSavagery against women is a part of our male makeup. It begins with the discussions and ends in the sexual assault. Without a doubt, governments must change their male dominant laws but on the other hand, it’s very much up to the men who loathe savagery against women to come up with kind of an answer as opposed to enabling it to proceed.In the situations above, both cases identified with a feeling of domination over women’s bodies transcribing men as subjects and women as objects. Remarks like:”Did you get any last night?” we ask our friends. “Did you score?” For men, sex is power. It’s undeniable proof of our manliness. Our personalities are based on sexual accomplishment.BRUTALITY AGAINST WOMEN IS THE MALE NATUREWe don’t consider women as equals. How would you feel when your partner shows sexual interest for somebody other than you or notices her past partners? What happens when you do the “body count” dialog and she has been with more individuals than you or more individuals than you had expected? We feel a loss, as well as if the pivot of our universe, is broken.Brutality against women is a piece of our male character. It begins with a discussion and ends in rape. We have tochange that cycle. Government approach must change, but on the other hand, it’s also on us.
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